tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8315393574670249538.post2533018002889062729..comments2023-04-26T07:33:21.718-05:00Comments on Mom PharmD: EtiquetteMs Future PharmDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12909264711431064432noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8315393574670249538.post-15536196740447869502013-07-29T14:54:22.091-05:002013-07-29T14:54:22.091-05:00I'm sorry you're feeling crappy about this...I'm sorry you're feeling crappy about this. I've been in a couple of weddings, and while it really was an honor, it is also an incredible waste of money and energy. Having not had a wedding of my own, maybe I don't fully appreciate these things. That being said, I know how sad it can be to not be included or invited to the weddings of people who you were once close to. That has happened a few times for me recently, and while I totally understand, it still hurts--not so much that I wasn't included as that we'd drifted apart to the point where it wasn't terribly hurtful that I wasn't included. Does that make sense? Anyway, I wonder from your post if that isn't the primary reason for your hurt. As for your sister, I did tell my sister, honestly, when she asked, that I would be hurt if I was a bridesmaid and not the maid-of-honor. If this is indeed something that is going to to hurt for you for years, you might as well talk with her about it. She may have felt that including the Kid WAS including you. Before you talk with her, maybe think about what it is that would make you feel better. You will, after all, be in family photos from the wedding, so it's not just that. :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8315393574670249538.post-11654487568074959192013-07-29T14:10:50.072-05:002013-07-29T14:10:50.072-05:00I'm torn on this. On one hand, 5 years after m...I'm torn on this. On one hand, 5 years after my wedding, I'm glad I had all my siblings + SIL in my wedding party because it's family after all, BUT, at the time, my SIL was only in it b/c she made it very clear she expected nothing else, and I hugely resented that for a really long time. It was my day, and it pissed me off that she was in my wedding just b/c she was family and she felt like she should be.<br /><br />FWIW - my advice is to suggest that you concentrate on the fact you don't have to drop a couple hundred dollars on an unflattering dress and just go with it. I'm sorry hon, I know it hurts to feel excluded.Joshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423295019681051881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8315393574670249538.post-81857032999988271522013-07-28T01:51:02.688-05:002013-07-28T01:51:02.688-05:00As someone who has also never been a part of a wed...As someone who has also never been a part of a wedding, and is SUPER bitter about it, I would say that you're not being irrational AT ALL. But then again, maybe I'm not the person to ask. <br /><br />It's funny, because we're planning on getting married in January and it will be a VERY small affair and none of my friends will be invited, let alone be in it, and yet I'll still probably be annoyed when I'm not in their weddings, if they ever have one (one close friend is getting married this fall and none of us are invited). I guess weddings bring up strong emotions in people, <br /><br />Anyway, I'm sorry I'm not being very helpful. I just wanted to let you know that I also feel really strongly about being asked to participate (or not) in weddings. My cousins originally asked all of her girl cousins to be in her wedding, we even picked out dresses, and then suddenly she wasn't having any bridesmaids at all. It was really weird and I'm still a little hurt by it (it happened YEARS) ago. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. It's hard to know how to feel about these things, especially when everyone else wants to tell you how you should feel. I just hope you know that however you do feel is appropriate and that it may take some time to work through your pain and disappointment. Abiding with you. Esperanzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375150088333673843noreply@blogger.com